Three Things You Can Do to Raise Happy, Healthy Kids

WE HAVE THREE SEPARATE  parenting jobs that require different strategies. Each of these parenting jobs is distinct, manageable, and important. They also are interdependent; each relies to some extent on the others for its success. Ignore any of these tasks at your own risk! Do these three well, and you'll be a pretty good mom or dad. The first two parenting jobs involve discipline and behavior concerns, while the third focuses on the parents-child relationship.

• Parenting Job 1 involves controlling obnoxious behavior. You will never like or get along well with your children if they are constantly irritating you with behavior such as whining, arguing, teasing, badgering, tantrums, yelling, and fighting. I will write new post to discuss how to use the 1,2,3  counting technique to control obnoxious behavior, and you will be pleasantly surprised at how effective that simple technique is!
• Parenting Job 2 involves encouraging good behavior. Encouraging good behavior - such as picking up toys, going to bed, being courteous, and doing homework - requires more effort by parents (and more effort from kids to engage in the encouraged behavior) than controlling difficult behavior does. In next page, you will learn seven simple methods for encouraging positive action in your kids.
• Parenting Job 3 is strengthening your relationship with your children. Some parents merely need to be reminded of parenting Job 3; other parents have to work hard at remembering to do it. Paying attention to the quality of your relationship with your children will help you with Jobs 1 and 2, and vice verse.

How do our three parentings jobs relate to the warm and demanding parenting traits? As you may have guessed already, the tactic for job 1, controlling obnoxious behavior, depends almost entirely on the demanding parent role. There's not much warm or fuzzy about it! Job 3, however, will rely almost entirely on the warm side of the parenting equation. And finally, Job 2, encouraging good behavior, will employ both warm and demanding strategies.

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